Tread Carefully and Do Not Settle
As we travel on our journey to our greatest version, there will be times when certain things, situations and people come into our life that contradict our newfound beliefs and the vibrational level that we are trying to reach. When this happens, you must look deep within yourself, trust your gut and know what is not best for you. In other words, DO NOT SETTLE. When I say Do Not Settle, this is a not a condescending or narcissistic view upon that which as come into your life. Other people, just like us, are on a life journey, whichever direction that journey is headed. Because you are not settling for those people and things that are not at your vibrational or emotional level, does not mean you are heartless or are better than them. None of us are better in this world than anyone else. But I also know that as you let negative energy into your life, which is the opposite of what you are striving for, that negative energy can start to seep into yourself self being and your mind set.
Very recently, I started dating a girl who was very pretty and seemed to be a good match for me. But as time went along, I started to discover more and more vices and issues in her life that she was struggling with. My first inclination was to continue the relationship and given my new higher purpose, I could help her better who she was. But what I learned very quickly was that you cannot help or change anyone who does not want to help themselves. What I also started to see was that the relationship was starting to bring out the bad traits of the old Francis. Getting easily offended, overthinking and assuming the worst, worrying and being stressed all hours of the day. I knew that as much as I cared about this girl, this was not a healthy situation and I had to get out. Eventually the end came organically, and she seemed to fade away form the relationship until she longer was communicating, and I took that as the Universe working things out for the best.
Having said all this, I truly hope that this person finds their path to a better inner being and rids themselves of the vices that seemed to have entrapped her. This post is in no way a begrudging her or what she is going through. My point is that we can easily start letting people have a place in our lives which can start to drain us and consume our thoughts and energy. I honestly started questioning if I had made any progress at all in the last few months and started to call myself a farce. My advice to you is to be mindful of who and what enters your life and start to create those boundaries when you notice negativity start to gain power over you. The phrase Do Not Settle does not mean you should not have people with struggles in your life, as we are all here on this earth to help others. DO try to help and empower those that are at lower points in their life. But at the same time, when you want people in your life in substantial ways, for example a romantic relationship, make sure that you are at a similar mental vibration and on the same life path. When you are two wholes meeting as one, that relationship can flourish and both of you can help each other on that journey to your Greatest Version. Allow and find the people and things in your life that you deserve. You have worked way too hard to let negativity and toxicity start to break down that foundation that you have created.
This experience also shed light on things I still have to work as well. Any relationship working or not working takes two and there are several situations that I could have handled differently. But I let my inner negative voice win out, which led to me overreacting or assuming on things that I should not have. This journey to our Greatest Version is always ongoing, so I can now take stock on what is still needing improvement in my mindset and my behavior in relationships both romantic and otherwise. I thought I was a point where things that would bother in the past, would not now. But I have to suck it up and try to improve on those, as every life experience is a worthy one if one gains from it.
As I mentioned and will emphasize again, try what you can to extend the olive branch and help these people as we know there is good in them and they have a heart that wants happiness. But at the same time, build long term relationships with those that will water your growth and vice versa. You can help others and still embrace like vibing people as significant members of your life.
May God and the Universe bless this person who came into my life and I wish nothing but joy and happiness for her in the future as I know she deserves it. She will always have a place in my heart.